Break-ups are not easy at all, no matter on what end you find yourself. Being in a relationship could be one of the most enriching experiences you may have. However, finding the right partner for yourself can be a trial-and-error process. And you may need to go through breakups too. There are many reasons why partners choose to separate and not continue their life together anymore.
There are moments when partners begin to argue, to not agree on things. Fighting with your partner every day can become stressful and overwhelming. It can turn into a toxic relationship that does no good to any of the partners.
On the other hand, some couples get along quite well but they start growing apart. They might start having different interests, values, and perspectives on life. In any of these cases breaking up is an important decision that should not be taken impulsively. Read more about:
- What to do
- And what to not do
- When you break up with someone over text.
Breaking Up with Someone Over Text
You probably know already that breaking up with someone over text is not something recommended. It is about the respect you give each other even if you do not form a couple anymore. However, in some cases, this might be the best solution.
There might be cases when you might feel your partner will react negatively and impulsively. There might be cases when you do not have an official relationship, but only a fling or a one-night stand. Or there might be cases when you can’t meet your partner in person. So, instead of prolonging the distress and pain, you have to give the news as fast as possible.
Breaking up with someone is not easy at all. Doing it over text could make it more facile, but it is still something that will leave one or both partners empty and in distress. If you are the one who wants to initiate the break-up, then you should do it gently. Even though this will hurt the other person, the way you expose your opinion and send your message can alleviate the pain a little.
So, here are some ways you can break up with someone over text without hurting them emotionally. Some do and don’ts to apply.
What to Do
Breaking up with someone is complicated and challenging. And your feelings and emotions about the process and the relationship can make everything harder. So, it is important to take your time to think about this decision. If you are sure of it, then you can proceed to the following steps.
Inform your partner, or soon-to-be ex-partner, that you want to talk about something important. Start your message by saying something positive about your relationship. You might have enjoyed your trips to nature or you have valued the support you got during the relationship.
However, it is important to focus on the reasons why you want to break up with your partner. This might be the most difficult part of the process, but if you are sure of your decision, you probably know your reasons.
When you communicate with them, it is important to do it with care and having your ex-partner in mind. Letting them know that you imagine how they feel is important. Show that you understand what they go through and that you are sorry, but without returning to you two as a couple. Breaking up with someone over text can be challenging. However, listen to what your partner has to say and give them the space they need to react.
What Not to Do
Breaking up over text is not recommended. However, in some moments it might be the right decision. To make everything easier both for you and your soon-to-be ex-partner, it would be helpful to have a good approach. It is essential to not disrespect your partner and communicate openly.
Each has their own perspective on the same thing and how your partner will react is not known. Do not avoid the discussion because it is difficult to have one. These challenging conversations will help you grow and develop, but only if you approach the situation with calm and respect, without rushing it.
Breaking up with someone is always difficult, especially if you have been together for quite some years. It is a decision you need to think a lot about before making it. Breaking up can leave the partners drained, hurt, sad, or disappointed. This is why it is essential to approach it with calm and respect. Not hurting them emotionally can be a goal you might not be able to achieve.
However, you can make everything easier by exposing the reasons why you want this break-up, but also your gratitude and respect for everything that happened between you two. You can read more about this topic, as well as the psychological changes behind it, in essays from Careersbooster and Resumes Planet.